You may keep yourself up at night thinking about what wasn’t done and what needs to be done the next day. Lack of sleep coupled with physically demanding activities is a recipe for tiredness, slower recovery, mental fogginess, and a weakened immune system. All of these can affect your performance at home and work, which can make matters worse.
Pent up anger
A nagging wife or mother is often depicted in the media and, undoubtedly, many of us have experienced it at home. While this stereotype or trope can be exaggerated at times, the reason behind a mother’s nagging is often justified when we consider their mental load.
For women bearing a heavy mental load, she can develop frustration, resentment or anger when others in the household don’t pitch in. Oftentimes, one partner is forced to stay at home to tend to chores and children instead of pursuing their own career or interests. This can create feelings of resentment and discontent.
Feelings of emptiness
Sometimes, house chores can become mind-numbingly boring and tedious. For some, these tasks become second nature and they feel like they are on autopilot at times. While domestic chores are important to keep a home running smoothly, they are not exactly fun. In addition, these take up time and effort away from hobbies or career work. For the partner that carries a heavier mental load, they can feel unfulfilled or hollow at some point.
At first, many couples go through a honeymoon phase. Everything is well and good for the first few months, but as the dust settles, troublesome habits may become tolerated and normalized. In the beginning, partners may have been more active sharing the mental burden, but as children are added to the equation and work becomes more important, the weight becomes imbalanced. More often than not, the woman is stuck with the short end of the stick in this situation.