4) You don’t enjoy time with them
Relationships should be enriching and enjoyable. However, your relationship may be toxic if you feel uncomfortable or even bored around your partner. Forcing yourself to be in someone else’s company can be draining on your part. It can be a waste of time as for both parties as well.
These can become points of resentment down the road. Indeed, many relationships fall apart when one person feels that they have “lost the spark.” Before things go downhill, make sure that both of you are getting what you want our of the relationship. In addition, try new experiences every once in a while to keep things fresh.
5) Abusive behavior
Last but not least, the biggest red flag in any relationship is abuse. While we often think abuse as bruises or burns on the skin, it goes much deeper than this. Abuse can be manifested physically, emotionally, and sexually. People who abuse others take advantage and may even enjoy causing them harm.
Common traits of abusers include:
- Minimizes or denies the severity of their actions (“I didn’t hit you that hard”)
- Seeing their victims as objects or lesser beings (“I’m just putting you in your place”)
- Manipulation or gaslighting (“I would never said that. You’re just imagining things”, “I would love you more if you looked like this”)
- They may have underlying self-esteem issues (many abusers were victims as children or were bullied themselves)
- The need to feel power over others (“Stop talking to that person because I said so”)
- Never taking responsibility for their actions (“You made me do it”)
- Having a different persona or image at different times (they may seem very nice at times but become violent later)
Sadly, abuse can happen to anyone regardless of gender, age, profession, religion, or race. In addition, abusers can be from any background or social standing.