#2: Not enjoying your job
There may be a point that emotional labor can get too heavy and you end up hating your job. If you find it harder to wake up in the morning and commute to work despite the paycheck and benefits, it may be due to excessive emotional labor or other factors. Surface acting and deep acting can only take you so far.
Talking to your superior or HR may be a way to improve your work environment. However, depending on the nature of the work itself, it may be time to switch careers or workplaces.
Compartmentalization is a defense mechanism used when people are confronted with conflicting emotions or thoughts. It can be a helpful tool to get through work and life experiences. However, it is impossible to completely separate our real self from our professional selves all the time.
People who compartmentalize too long at work may feel conflicted or confused as to what their actual beliefs and feelings are. For example, medical workers are often expected to put aside their religious beliefs. But what happens when your workplace is involved with something you don’t believe in, such as blood transfusion or abortion?
In this scenario, you may be able to justify that you are not the one performing the act so it is acceptable. However, from time to time you may feel hypocritical for it. You may experience an identity or cognitive dissonance.
#4: Unloading your feelings at home
While emotional labor dictates that workers should check their emotions at the door, the opposite is not true. When we are expected to hold back our emotions in the workplace, often the only place we can release it is at home. Unloading after a hard day at work can be relieving, however, this can place a strain on your family who may have emotional build up of their own.
Your home and family should be a sanctuary, not an emotional dump site.