No, we weren’t separated. I actually prefer to be in one room with my twin. It’s just so fun. There is this bond that others won’t understand unless you too have a twin and are close. If the sickness is something that can be transmitted or wasairborne, then I’d be separated from Candee. I must admit it though that it would be extremely boring if I were alone. When we are sick, there is this sense of comfort from the other if we’re together.
Candee: We don’t often get sick at the same time. However, we both feel sad or uneasy when the other is unwell. Unlike other twins, we don’t believe that we have to be separated. We’ve been staying in one room since we were born and still do until this time, in our 30s. Cindee is right. If the sickness is easily transmitted, we’ll definitely be apart. But with today’s technology, we communicate online if needed to be far from each other.
Growing up, were your family and friends confused about who’s who? How did you deal with the confusion?
Candee: Yes, some of our family members and friends still get confused to this day. Sometimes it is my twin who confuses other people just like what happened in college.
Our professor called her name and she immediately pushed me while saying “you are called.” Being called on the spot made me flush red so the professor thought that I am really Cindee and our other classmates also got confused. I’m happy when someone gets confused because not all identical twins still look alike.
Cindee: Some of our family, relatives, and friends are still confused. It’s a lot of fun really. It’s like a mini prank even if we don’t intend to do that. I was once was walking in Glorietta Mall in Makati to go to the office of my twin when her colleagues passed by looking at me.
They were staring weirdly, in shock and with a confused face. I smiled and was thinking were they looking at me. Then they said, “Candee nagpagupit ka?! Kanina ang haba ng hair mo at iba damit mo.” (Candee, did you have your hair cut?! Your hair was long earlier and your clothes were different). There are a lot of instances like that. I laugh and just tell them that I am not Candee.
Were you classmates in school? How was it like studying with your twin? Were you compared with each other? Some twins struggle with their “identity” as they grow up. Did you go through the same struggle?
Cindee: Yes, we were classmates in school at some levels. Nursery, Junior Kinder, and Kinder, we were classmates. We were separated from prep until high school. In college, we were classmates in first, second, and fourth year. In third year, we spent half a semester in a different section and half in the same section.
I never had to struggle with my identity. I think we both never had that kind of problem.
Were we compared? I guess so, yes. There are areas wherein Candee excels and there are others, where I do. It’s something natural and I don’t mind that.
Candee: It was fun to be in the same class with my twin. Often times we were compared to each other. We had also been compared with our other siblings. But I don’t think we struggled with our identity. Many of our classmates were amazed by us being twins and we became popular in a sense, which others don’t appreciate. Having said that, our struggle in studying would be more about our classmates who bullied us in college.
Cindee: We are the same in a lot of ways, like our hobbies, the songs we like, the love for travel and learning new things. We both may love drawing, but our expertise differ. Cands is amazing with anime and I happen to excel in another genre.
Our personalities are different. DNA is also different. We are all made differently; all unique. Candee and I may be twin,s but we don’t have same fingerprints and penmanship.
Candee: I agree that our personality is different. Our views and perspective in life are a bit different too. There are things that we love and appreciate, just like what she mentioned above. My friends are her friends, and vice versa.
Some people believe that twins have this “special connection,” like one would know if the other one doesn’t feel okay even if they’re not physically together; do you experience that, too?
Candee: Twins have a different connection depending on how they’re brought up. As for me and my twin, I can say that we have a special connection that only twins who are together and well-bonded would understand.
Cindee: Special connection…for me that’s an all caps, YES! It may or may not be applicable to others.But to us, it is. It’s not all the time but there is that special connection like when I was feeling this electric thing on my leg, she also felt that at the exact time when I was experiencing it. And we both were laughing. That happened in school and a few of our friends witnessed that.
Sometimes, what we think is the same. There are times she is thinking of a song or a movie and then she will hear me sing or mention it, and vice versa. Sometimes when we are sad, we will know the other is too when we both get home and talk about it.
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