Lack of concentration
In the wake of losing someone, a person undergoes a lot of different emotions. This can cause them to have intrusive thoughts. These thoughts can disrupt a person’s daily routine, causing them to look like they’re always preoccupied.
Nightmares or bad dreams
Another result of having to go through very intense emotions after a great loss is altered dream patterns. Sometimes emotions manifest in a person’s subconscious, causing bizarre dreams or nightmares.
It’s not difficult for somebody to feel an overwhelming sense of guilt. This is common for those who think they could’ve done something differently that would change the fate of the deceased.
Sense of relief
Losing a loved one to chronic, painful illness can be devastating. For some, however, it can offer some level of comfort, knowing that the person they love would never have to suffer again.
Ways to support a grieving friend or loved one
Helping someone through grief and loss is difficult. Starting a conversation with somebody in grief is like stepping on thin ice. Trying to find and say the right words is a gamble.
Research shows that a grieving person can recover from grief over time if they have social support and healthy habits. That is why there are ideas you can try to do for you to help someone who is currently grieving. These include:
Talk and mention the name of the deceased in conversations
A grieving person might find it difficult to mention or hear the name of the deceased during conversations.
However, including the name of the departed during talks will make the person in grief realize that even though the person is not physically present, their memories will still live on.
Lend an ear
Listening is the best way to offer your condolences to a family or a friend. Talking about the memories and experiences with the deceased can be a form of recuperation for people in grief.
Showing your sympathies by listening will help lessen the pain and sadness your friend or loved one is going through.
You can offer help, by checking-in on someone who has just lost somebody now and then. It’s always worth suggesting that they attend support groups so they can meet other people sharing the same experience with them.
However, according to research, not all who participate in bereavement groups have lessened grief and anxiety. It suggests that immediate intervention must come from significant others rather than strangers.
Remind your loved one or friend that grieving takes time
Experts believe that the process of grief is more complicated than just grieving and showing negative emotions.
There are a lot of factors on how people can recover from grief, aside from grieving. Tell your family or friend to take their time and pause a little to try and recognize their current emotional state.
Remind them that the grieving process may take years, however, it still depends on how they will learn to cope.
Encourage them to try new things
When helping someone through grief and loss, you need to uplift their spirits and encourage them to try new things.
Do activities you’ve never done before or start a new tradition that will remind your loved one or friend of the good things their departed has done during their lifetime.
But, remember not to force it, as different people have different ways to get back on their feet.
Let them know that being emotional is okay
Grief makes people release so many strong emotions. There are times when bereaved individuals will just stay quiet for a while, then will suddenly cry out of nowhere.
Assure your family member and friend that being emotional during this time is okay. Explain to them that being emotional will help them get better.
Above all, be patient and consistent when caring for a grieving person.
Grief takes a toll on any individual. It might be different for every person, but it will definitely have a great impact on their lives.
As a person who is helping someone through grief and loss, it is one of your responsibilities, to get help from professionals if the way that person copes with grief isn’t getting better over time.
Although it may take a long while, staying by your loved ones or friends’ side during these dark times will eventually help them recover from the pain of losing someone dear to them.
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