More often than not, anger comes after denial.
After confirming the recent news they have received, a grieving person would often feel frustration and anger and would lash out to anyone who they believe is the source of their grief. It could be the person that brought the news, such as a doctor, or perhaps their former partner, their former employee, or even themselves.
There’s also the question of “Why me?” that people would often ask.
According to experts, anger is an essential part of the process and that you should feel it and let it out for the sake of your healing and for your mental health. The more you feel it and let it out, the faster it will dissipate and allow you to move further to your healing.
Have you ever prayed or said, “I’ll do good and never complain, just please heal my family?” This is bargaining.
During this stage, a person would often find ways to avoid or change the feeling of grief and the situation that brought it in the first place. Bargaining also is often directed to God or anyone or anything that person believes it.
There’s also the obsession with “what ifs” and scenarios that could change or prevent the current situation.
Perhaps the stage that dramatically affects our mental health is the depression stage.
In some ways, this stage is a step closer to acceptance and healing. This is when you realize that the situation is real, and there’s no changing it. Nevertheless, people would often think during this time that the feeling of hopelessness will last forever and will think life is meaningless.
In addition, people in the depression stage would often isolate themselves and will not accept help from family and friends.
Although depression in a grieving process is similar to what you would feel when you have clinical depression, they are two different things. Being depressed when you are grieving is not a sign of mental health illness. Instead, it is an appropriate response to a loss.
However, if depression persists for a long time, even after you have learned how to accept the situation, it might be best to consult with an expert.
Often the final stage of grieving, acceptance is when you have finally come to terms with the situation and have accepted the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or any other challenging event that happened.
Acceptance does not necessarily mean we are “okay” or that we can stop grieving. People could still experience depression and other emotions after accepting and understanding the reason for our feelings. At times, the process can repeat several times before we truly heal.