How Can Older Women Enjoy Sex More?

One might think that as people age, their sexual desire diminishes. And while it’s true for many, researchers discovered that desire doesn’t necessarily equate satisfaction. In fact, the majority of the participants in one study reported “frequent arousal and orgasm that continue into old age despite lower sexual desire.¹” This article focuses on old woman sex, particularly the ways women can enjoy sex more despite their advancing years. 

Why Does Sex Start To Feel Less Pleasurable With Age?

Talking about old woman sex means we need to discuss why many women consider sex as a chore more than a pleasurable act of intimacy. 

According to gynecologists, women over 50 — or those who already experienced menopause — typically develop “barriers” that make intercourse less pleasurable. For instance, they may have vaginal dryness or constriction that make penetrative sex quite uncomfortable or painful. Having another medical condition, like diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, or osteoporosis, may also restrict sexual activities. 

If you’re experiencing these issues, know that you’re not alone. The good news is, there are plenty of ways to enjoy sex as you age. 

Old Women Sex: How To Have a Better Sex Life

Before we talk about the ways to have more pleasurable “old woman sex”, let’s first highlight that age doesn’t protect anyone from the dangers of sexually-transmitted diseases. Hence, you MUST ALWAYS practice safe sex. 

With that said, below are some tips to have better sex as you age:

1. Talk to Your Partner About Sex²

The first practical tip is to talk to your partner about sex. Consider telling them the changes you’re experiencing and how they relate to your sex life. 

Be open and honest about things, like how you feel about a particular activity or what you look forward to each time you get intimate with one another. 

Be playful, too, and discuss new ideas on how to make sex more pleasurable for the two of you. 

If there are aspects you don’t agree upon (the frequency of sexual intercourse, positions, etc.), try meeting halfway. 

2. Lubricate and/or Use a Moisturizer

Like mentioned earlier, one of the potential issues that limit a woman’s sexual pleasure is vaginal dryness. 

For this reason, don’t forget to use a lubricant and/or consider applying a moisturizer. A lubricant may help reduce the discomfort or pain of penetrative sex, while the regular use of a moisturizer may help address vaginal dryness³. 

3. Consider Thing that Improve Sex Drive or Orgasm

One of the issues plaguing “old woman sex” is the lack of libido or orgasm. Good thing there are things you can consider to improve them. 

For instance, a glass of wine may enhance your sex drive. Reports also say that using a vibrator for three months increased vaginal lubrication, orgasm, and vaginal sensation in some women⁴.

Wondering about your options in improving arousal and orgasm? Talk to your gynecologist. They might be able to suggest some products (arousal oil, stimulation device, etc.) for you. 

4. Explore Additional Ways To Be Intimate

Besides penetrative sex, remember that you can also get intimate through touching, kissing, and cuddling. Many women also find other sexual activities, such as oral sex and cunnilingus sex, satisfying. 

Also, please remember that even if you don’t achieve orgasm, sex can still be good. 

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