On the other hand, engaged parenting brings children many benefits such as encouraging feelings of love and acceptance, establishing self-confidence, and offering guidance and opportunities to grow.
The need for helicopter parenting arises when parents feel overpowered by the fear of whether they are contributing enough towards the child’s well-being and also of what the future holds for the child. This creates a compelling need for parents to control every aspect of their child’s life through compulsive micromanagement.
Some of the adverse effects of helicopter parenting on children include:
- Reduced confidence and self-esteem
- Undeveloped handling skills
- Increased depression
- Sense of entitlement
- Undeveloped life skills
How Can You Avoid Being a Helicopter Parent?
So, how can a parent love and care for their children without impeding their independence, self-respect, and self-worth? The trick lies in striking the right balance between teaching important life skills and not being a control freak. It is definitely a challenge to understand and maintain balance. In practical terms, this means letting kids struggle, giving them opportunities to make mistakes, and permitting them to be disappointed.
Finally, healthy parenting is also about enabling children to learn from their failure, while you are a constant support in helping them to go through it.
Allow your children to manage tasks that they are physically and mentally mature enough to handle. Making your 3-year-old’s bed is not hovering. Making your 13-year-old’s bed is. Keep in mind to look for chances to take one step back from solving your child’s problems will help you raise a reliable, self-confident kid. This will enable you to prepare him/her for the future.
Learn more about the Growth and Development of School-Age Children here.