Here’s an important part of the authoritative parenting style: Even before the teenager skipped school, the parents already explained that they need to attend their classes unless they have permission to be absent.
They already set their expectations and explained the consequences, should those expectations not be met.
Permissive Parenting Style
In one study called Child Rearing Practices Among Families in Countryside Philippines, investigators found that the highest-ranking parenting style in two participating barangays is the permissive parenting style.
This parenting style is high in communication, but low in standards.
The researchers said that permissive parents tend to act as advisors and not decision-makers. Besides, a permissive parenting style “ignores” the children’s behavior and does not set limits on the child’s actions.
Possible Effects
Some reports say that children raised by permissive parents might possess impulsiveness and might even lack self-control or develop a desire to control others.
Due to the parents’ permissiveness, the kids could be “aimless” and “rebellious.”
For example: When a permissive parent learns that their kid had skipped classes, they may or may not let their kids know that they learned about the wrongdoing. They might try to talk to their kids about what they did, but in general, they will let the kid control the conversation.
At one point, the parents might attempt to explain why the kid is wrong, but cannot stand their ground.
In the end, there will be no consequences to the child’s actions. Furthermore, the parents will not take any steps to ensure that the wrongdoing will not happen again.

Authoritarian Parenting Style
Though they may sound similar, the authoritative parenting style and the authoritarian style are very different.
This parenting style is high in standards, but low in communication.
An authoritarian parent is one that expresses high expectations, but shows low support.
Most of the time, they would like to control their kids, too. Due to their very stern nature, the communication tends to end up in argument and fighting, especially when the kids are old enough to “fight back.”
Possible Effects
Since authoritarian parents often want their kids’ “unquestioning obedience” all the while remaining detached, the kids might feel so confined they “cannot wait to leave home”.
Additionally, children may develop low self-esteem and poor communication skills.
Key Takeaways
There’s no one-size-fits-all parenting style. Many parents “mix” these parenting styles depending on their kids’ personalities and the situation they are in.
And it’s not surprising. After all, various parenting practices in the Philippines are affected by a lot of factors, such as societal norms, religious beliefs, and influences of other family members.
What matters most is that you keep doing your best, seek help when needed, and always put the wellbeing of your child first, no matter the style you choose as a parent.
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