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Talking to Your Doctor About Sex: How Do You Do It?

Talking to Your Doctor About Sex: How Do You Do It?

For a lot of people, sex and sexuality is a very private topic. Not everyone is open to talking about sex, most especially if its with their doctor. But there are certain situations wherein talking to your doctor about sex is necessary.

How can you prepare for these situations, and how can you get over your embarrassment or awkwardness about these things?

Why Do You Need to Talk About Sex?

Sex is a very important aspect of our lives, yet not everyone talks about it. In fact, people who struggle with sex or have issues with their sex lives typically don’t discuss it with doctors, or even their partners. This can be a problem because people might just leave their problems as it is, or try to research on their own and potentially end up with wrong information.

One interesting fact is that in a lot of failed relationships, there is an aspect of dissatisfaction when it comes to sex. While breakups can be the result of different factors, its possible that this dissatisfaction might have contributed to the breakdown of the relationship1.

Another important thing to remember is that sexual health is an important aspect of our overall health. Just as we visit our doctors when we experience symptoms if illness, its a good idea to visit and talk to your doctor about sex if you’re having troubles in bed.

To help overcome your worries about opening up to your doctor, here are some important tips to keep in mind:

Talking to Your Doctor About Sex: What You Need to Know

There are a number of reasons why talking with your doctor about sex can be difficult. Sometimes, a short consultation isn’t enough to talk about these things, or perhaps you feel awkward sharing such private matters with a doctor. Some people are also worried that there might be something “wrong” with them, so they don’t talk to their doctor about sex.

Its also possible that some people aren’t even aware that they have sex problems, partly due to misinformation or lack of sex education. And in the case of Filipinos, the prevailing culture we have with regard to sex makes it difficult to talk about these things openly.

With all of these things in mind, how can you start discussing sensitive matters with your doctor?

Here are some tips that you can try out:

  • Practice what you want to say to your doctor. You can write it down on a piece of paper or jot down some important details to make it easier to talk about2.
  • Find the right doctor. It might be better to find a doctor whose age is closer to yours, or is recommended by some of your friends.
  • Just do it. Sometimes, beating around the bush makes sex even more difficult to talk about. It would be best to be upfront and get it over with so that you no longer hesitate3.
  • If you don’t feel that the doctor gave you the right advice or you’re still not comfortable, get a second opinion from someone else. It’s perfectly fine to do so, and can even help you make informed decisions about your sexual health4.

Key Takeaways

When it comes to the topic of sex, it’s pretty normal to feel embarrassed or awkward. However, you should remember that talking to a doctor about your sexual health is nothing to be ashamed of5. Just like other aspects of our health, sexuality is very important. The sooner you address the issues you’re worried about, the sooner that your problems can be resolved.

Learn more about Sexual Wellness here.

Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Sources
  1. Why You Should Talk to Your Doctor About Sex | HealthConnect, https://promedicahealthconnect.org/general-health/why-you-should-talk-to-your-doctor-about-sex/, Accessed November 2, 2021
  2. How to talk to your doctor about sex, https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/health-and-wellness/how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-about-sex-20200204-p53xoj.html, Accessed November 2, 2021
  3. How to Talk to Your Doctor About Sex | The Blog | Sexual + Being, https://sexualbeing.org/blog/how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-about-sex/, Accessed November 2, 2021
  4. GoodTherapy | How to Talk to Your Doctor about Sex, https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-about-sex-1119145, Accessed November 2, 2021
  5. How to Talk with Your Doctor About Sensitive Issues | National Institute on Aging, https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/how-talk-your-doctor-about-sensitive-issues, Accessed November 2, 2021
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Written by Jan Alwyn Batara Updated 4 weeks ago
Fact Checked by Kristel Lagorza