Why Can’t Some Women Achieve Orgasm?
Understanding how orgasms work can help people better understand how to achieve it. People might think that its as simple as just stimulating the vagina, but its more complicated than that. The brain and body need to work together to achieve sexual climax.
For example, if a woman is stressed out, tired, has negative experiences or even trauma about sex, they might find it hard to achieve orgasm. This could be due to the fact that they are not in the right “headspace” so to speak. So even if they’re stimulated physically, and they enjoy sexual activity, if their brain isn’t in sync, then they can’t have an orgasm.
In the case of anorgasmia, a woman might feel that she’s almost ready to have an orgasm, but it takes a long time for it to happen. This can eventually make her feel tired or frustrated, and this makes it even harder to achieve orgasm.
Some women might also have anxiety, or even fears that their partner might not be interested in them sexually. All of these things can factor into having difficulty with achieving orgasm.
It Could Be Due to Insufficient Stimulation
Another possible reason that a woman can’t climax is that they’re not stimulated enough. The reality is that most women don’t climax from sexual penetration alone2. Unlike men, who can climax readily through stimulating the penis, women sometimes need clitoral and not just vaginal stimulation to achieve an orgasm3.
A woman who keeps asking herself “Why can’t I climax?” might find a solution if she and her partner tries different sex positions, or uses toys in the bedroom. Perhaps engaging in longer foreplay might be helpful. It is important to try out different things and not just keep trying to do the same thing over and over without any results.