Understanding Female Orgasm

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Update Date 28/06/2020 . 4 mins read
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Female orgasm has been highly debated, from its very existence to the location of the elusive g-spot, to woman climax signs, and even its biological purpose. While more studies are being done to understand its function, several myths have already been debunked.

What Happens in Female Orgasm

An orgasm is defined as the intense pleasure derived during sexual activity, which typically can be achieved with a partner or through masturbation.

When it comes to the female orgasm, some of the evident woman climax signs and symptoms include:

  • Fast heart rate
  • Change in breathing
  • Release of the hormones prolactin and oxytocin
  • Involuntary contractions of the muscles in the vagina and uterus
  • Release of intense pleasure that lasts a few seconds
  • After orgasm, a “sex flush” may appear

Similar to how a man ejaculates in the climax, some women also “ejaculate.” In women, this is referred to as “female ejaculation,” wherein a thick, milky fluid is released from the Skene’s glands near the urethra.

In addition, orgasm is part of the sexual response cycle, which refers to the stages and sequence of the physical and emotional changes that occur in sexual activity, which includes:

  • Desire (libido)
  • Arousal (excitement)
  • Orgasm
  • Resolution

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The Myths About the Female Orgasm

As mentioned, there are many myths surrounding the female orgasm, and here are some key truths behind certain misconceptions.

NOT TRUE – Women climax only through penetrative sex

While some women experience orgasm during penetrative sex, a majority of women more successfully achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation. According to a study, it takes between 10 to 20 minutes for women to orgasm. But a woman’s orgasm itself lasts between 20 seconds to a minute.

However, orgasms entail more than just the physical act of intercourse and stimulation. In some cases, women can achieve orgasm even without direct stimulation.

For many women, getting aroused and achieving climax – aside from physical stimulation – entails tapping into their psychological and emotional wellbeing. Thus, there have been claims that some women can “think” themselves into reaching orgasm.

NOT TRUE – Squirting is not real

More studies are needed to understand it, but squirting is real. The medical community is still studying the source and composition of the fluid that is released during the act of squirting. Female ejaculation and squirting are used interchangeably. However, the medical community differentiates female ejaculation from squirting.

Female ejaculation refers to the thick, milky fluid produced by the female prostate or Skene’s glands. On the other hand, squirting refers to the involuntary emission of urine-like fluid that is released during sexual activity.  

NOT TRUE – You can only get pregnant if both the man and woman can orgasm

This is not true. If a man ejaculates during sex, and the sperm is able to meet the egg for fertilization, then pregnancy is possible, regardless of whether the woman orgasms or not.

However, it is believed that the female orgasm can help boost the chances of conception by better retaining sperm during intercourse. This because during female orgasm, the pelvic muscles contract and push the sperm back into the cervix, boosting the chances of the sperm meeting the egg.

NOT TRUE – Female orgasms are only for pleasure 

Aside from helping to retain sperm, female orgasms are shown to have numerous health benefits, such as relieving pain and headaches. In some cases, orgasms are recommended to induce labor in pregnant women.

During orgasm, one of the woman climax signs is the release of oxytocin – the happy hormone – in the body. This leads the female to feel relaxed and content, able to bond more deeply with their partner. The benefits of female orgasms are physiological.

NOT TRUE: Women should have multiple orgasms during sex

There may be some unrealistic expectations about female orgasm due to porn and lack of education. While women can experience multiple orgasms, research suggests that only 15% of female-bodied experience multiple orgasms.

Multiple orgasms occur because females stay at a heightened level of arousal after climax. Men, on the other hand, need a “refractory” period.

NOT TRUE – Women do not experience blue balls

Blue balls refer to the men’s condition when, after having been aroused, they are not able to orgasm or find release. This may cause pain, aches, and general discomfort focused on the genitals. This is generally never fatal. Women may also experience this, too, especially if they cannot achieve orgasm after being aroused. Some refer to this as “pink balls.”

NOT TRUE – Women peak sexually in their late 20s to 30s

While men may experience erectile dysfunction as they grow older, women can achieve more orgasms as they age. Due to the physical changes of the clitoris and perhaps due to their confidence and awareness of their sexuality, women can achieve more and better orgasms well into their adult years.

It is during menopause that physical changes may occur, and this can impact sexual function and libido. By understanding your sexuality and woman climax signs, you can better identify the changes in your body as you mature.

While women can still enjoy sex without achieving orgasm, it may become a concern if they want to orgasm but cannot.

Some reasons why women may not be able to reach orgasm are the following:

  • Lack of knowledge about sex
  • Lack of awareness and understanding of one’s sexual desire
  • Not enough foreplay or stimulation
  • Problems in relationship
  • Stress or depression
  • Traumatic experience
  • Hormonal changes as in menopause
  • Health conditions such as heart disease or multiple sclerosis

For women seeking to find out the cause of their inability to orgasm, they can approach their GP or a therapist. Medical doctors, once they accurately diagnose your condition, can provide proper treatment and medication if available. Medication is usually for those suffering from hormonal changes, diabetes, and the like.

If the cause is emotional or psychological, a session to a therapist may be recommended. For couples, a sex therapist can also help to address issues together.

Key Takeaways

In society, talking about female sexuality and orgasm is still highly taboo. In the Philippines, a predominantly Catholic country, more can be done to improve sex education.

But to enjoy a healthy sexual relationship, women are encouraged to understand their bodies and their unique desires. Orgasm is achieved in many different ways and is different for every person. Sex is a normal, healthy part of a person’s wellbeing, and investing time to understand it can significantly affect your quality of life.

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Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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