The Trick to Avoiding Comparisons
It’s natural for parents to compare their kids. In fact, comparing them is an excellent way to spot problems early on. Case in point: If the older sibling started reading at six years old and the younger sibling still can’t by seven years, parents can immediately seek medical help.
However, for parents to set up all their children for success, they need to be cautious in vocally comparing their kids. No matter how noticeable their differences are, make it a point to focus on the child and the situation or problem.
So, instead of saying, “Your brother’s room is always neat, why can’t you do the same?” say something along the lines of “Why haven’t you cleaned your room yet? Do you need help?”
Likewise, instead of giving praises like “You always help me with chores, unlike your brother,” consider saying, “Thank you so much for helping me. I really appreciate it!”
The possible negative effects of comparing siblings include having low self-esteem, damage to the parent-child relationship, and poor academic performance. To avoid comparing siblings, remember to focus on the child and the current situation.
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