Why Foreplay Matters - Here's Why You Shouldn't Skip it

    Why Foreplay Matters - Here's Why You Shouldn't Skip it

    When it comes to sexual, it’s common for many couples to jump right into the action. But an important part of sex is foreplay – and people shouldn’t skip this crucial stage. Foreplay is often misunderstood and some people even think they can do away. But that is a huge misconception. Here’s why foreplay matters.

    What is foreplay?

    Foreplay is essential to all facets of sexual intercourse. This includes satisfying physical needs as well as the lesser-known emotional purpose that helps prepare both parties for sex.

    By definition, foreplay is the activity preceding intercourse. Contrary to popular belief, it could be both sexual and non-sexual as long as it’s done within the context of working towards fulfilling the act.

    On the mental or psychological level, foreplay is about arousal and preparation. On the physical level, it’s important for vaginal lubrication and sexual preparation.

    In practice, foreplay can include a lot of things like kissing, petting, non-penetrative forms of sex like oral sex, and many more. Fundamentally, foreplay is the act of achieving sexual stimulation prior to intercourse.

    Why does it matter?

    As mentioned, foreplay is a holistic activity and matters much more to the act of sex than most of us think. It is important when taking into account one’s pleasure, one’s emotions, and the physical aspect of having sex. Before we get to that, let’s take a look at why foreplay matters especially to women.

    Statistically, women take much longer to reach their orgasms than men do and that’s why foreplay is crucial because it primes the women for sexual satisfaction. Foreplay also allows for clitoral stimulation which we’ll expound on a bit more later.

    A study was carried out, yielding results saying that women find foreplay essential to their satisfaction and prefer caressing and kissing.

    Taking into account one’s pleasure, it’s important for us to realize that sexual intercourse is not just for reproductive reasons. This is why foreplay is important in facilitating the stimulation and arousal to increase the pleasurable aspects of intercourse as well. After all, sex is not entirely about making babies.

    Taking into account one’s emotional needs, foreplay is important because it nurtures that feeling of assurance and security that is necessary for healthy sexual relationships. The amount of time and attention spent on foreplay communicates a message of security and allows sexual partners to feel more invested and connected.

    On the physical level, intercourse is made more pleasurable and comfortable with foreplay because it allows for vaginal lubrication and mental preparation.

    Tips for Men and Women

    The most important thing when it comes to foreplay is finding what works for both of you. This means making sure that communication is open and honest both before and during sex.

    It’s important to understand that sexual preferences stem from personal tastes and the unique dynamic between the parties. Spending some time knowing and understanding your preferences can help you in clearly communicating what you like to your partner.

    Key Takeaways

    Now, do you understand why foreplay matters? To recap, foreplay is important for good sex. It ensures a gratifying experience for partners – on both the physical and emotional levels.

    Learn more about Sexual Wellness here.

    Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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    Written by Kip Soliva Updated Mar 03
    Medically reviewed by Elfred Landas, MD