Oral Sex: Tips for a More Pleasurable Experience

Oral sex is still a topic that many people shy away from because they don’t want to talk about sex. However, this is a technique that adds more spice to your sex life. Here’s how to do it safely and properly.

What is oral sex?

What is oral sex? This is the use of the mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate a sexual partner’s genitals. This type of sex includes behaviors such as licking, sucking on the penis, vagina, clitoris, or anus. So what are the consequences and benefits of oral sex? How to have sex safely?

Tips for couples to orgasm

Here’s how to do oral sex safely for both men and women.

How to do oral sex for men

Women who are not used to oral sex often are shy, so you can slowly ease into it. You can help her feel more comfortable by doing the following. 

Choose a comfortable position

You kneel on a pillow and he stands upright or sits. This position will give you easier access to everything.

If you feel uncomfortable kneeling, let him lie down and you can position yourself  between his legs. This pose will help you feel more powerful.

Use your hands to tease him 

When you first start having oral sex, use your hands to stroke his inner thighs, penis, scrotum, pelvis, etc. Explore his body and observe his reaction closely.

Use your tongue to increase stimulation

After using your hands, use your tongue to stimulate these sensitive areas slowly. A little saliva at this step will be a natural lubricant to help both of you increase excitement. However, this is the step where you need to use a condom to protect yourself from STIs.

How oral sex makes him “crazy”

When he starts to get an erection, you use your lips to glide slowly from the tip to the base of the penis. Close your lips tightly to increase his pleasure.

Move your lips slowly to get used to the size of his penis. If you are not used to it, combine your hands and mouth at the same time. You can simultaneously use your fingers to run from the base to the center of the penis and use your lips to glide from the center of the body to the tip of the penis.

Here’s how to avoid him getting too deep into your throat but still keep the pleasure.

If he likes this combination of oral sex, you can continue to use your hands and then use your lips to alternately glide along the length of the penis.

Combine lips and tongue

When you have glided your lips the entire length of the penis, you can use your tongue to stimulate the underside of the penis in combination with licking or lightly kissing.

Play with the foreskin

If your partner is not circumcised, this is where you can stimulate. Move your tongue in circles around the tip of the penis and foreskin. In addition, you can also use your fingers to gently massage this position.

When he has an orgasm

When he is close to “climax,” continue your movements rhythmically. You can stop these movements once he has ejaculated.

Oral sex for women

Although there are women who are shy about oral sex, many enjoy it if done well. Oral sex for women is sometimes even more complicated. However, as a partner, you should be very gentle before and while licking her vagina to make her more comfortable.

Make her comfortable

If she’s uncomfortable, oral sex won’t be as pleasurable. Foremost, be gentle. If she doesn’t know which oral sex position she likes the most, try the following with her:

You help her lie down comfortably on the bed and place a pillow under her butt to lift her lower body. This will make it easier for you to access her genitals and she will be more comfortable as well.

Next, you just need to spread her knees wide to start. You can also place a pillow under your knees if needed.

Play around with her body a bit during oral sex

When you start doing oral sex, use your tongue to play with her thighs first. Then you can increase the intensity and speed before heading down to the intimate area.

Listen to her body

At this stage, listen and observe to every little signal from her body to adjust your movements. Notice if her breathing is faster, if she moves her hips to your rhythm…

You can ask her to add a sex toy like a vibrator to increase the intensity. The average woman takes 20 minutes to orgasm during oral sex, so make it more enjoyable.

Gradually increase pleasure 

Increase the speed and intensity of your movements. You may try sliding your tongue over her clitoris horizontally or vertically. Some women like to be kissed on the labia. You should monitor her reaction to adjust.

When she is close to orgasm, continue your movements. However, there are still cases where she may not “climax”. You should not be dismayed in this situation, but show interest and care for her after sex.

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